The most common question I get asked when people find out I've lost a lot of weight is:
"How did you do it?"
I'm often tempted to make up an outlandish reply like, "I stood on my head for 3 days and ate nothing but bacon and the weight just fell right off!" But the point is, most of us already know
HOW to lose weight. Use up more calories than you put in. So, either exercise more, eat fewer calories, or do a little of both. Every successful weight loss plan in the world is some variation of this principle. It's not some magic secret we have yet to unlock about the human body, and I am certainly not hiding it.
What many people really need to know about weight loss comes down to three main factors...
What diet is right for me? Not every diet is one-size-fits-all, works for everyone. One of my favorite quotes is, "What is popular is not always right, and what is right is not always popular." Just because it's trendy to take
HCG drops and severely restrict your calories, doesn't mean that is what's going to work for
you (nor is it necessarily safe, but that's another topic).
Many people find success in more structured plans like
Weight Watchers and
NutriSystem that try to take the guesswork out of counting calories and provide you with a set amount of "points" or food for you to eat for the day. Group support is a very important part of many programs, like
Overeaters Anonymous and similar programs. Some people like the simplicity of plans like
SlimFast,
soup diets or
juice fad diets -- most meals become predictable, planned, not something you have to think about anymore. The best question to ask yourself when seeing if a diet is the right fit for you is: "
Five to ten years from now, do I see myself still following this diet and still enjoying it?" If the answer is no, then perhaps you need to do some more research and look elsewhere. If a diet is not enjoyable, sustainable, and do-able long term, then what is the point in throwing your time, money, and energy into it? Find a diet plan you really enjoy and WANT to do. If you can't find one, make your own! My current diet is a bastardization of what I learned in Weight Watchers -- high fiber, low fat, lean protein -- but I don't count any "points", because that drove me batty after a couple years. I only weigh myself once a month so I'm not so fixated on the ever-fluctuating number on the scale. I try to listen to my body and adapt my diet to what's going on in my life at any given time -- because that is what works for
ME.
Am I ready? The most underrated, unmentioned factor in weight loss is mentality, and to a lesser extent environment. I am by no means a psychologist, but there were many times in my life when I was not ready to lose weight -- not because I couldn't buy the foods needed or start an exercise plan, but because my head was not in the game. True, lasting weight loss involves a commitment to yourself, to get back on the horse and keep trying every single day even if you fall off the wagon for the umpteenth day in a row. There is no shame in falling off a diet -- we are human, and our bodies
AND minds need different things at different times. But if you can't mentally pick yourself up after a fall, dust yourself off and say, "Today is a new day." -- then perhaps now is not the time to be forcing the weight loss issue in your life. Weight loss takes a commitment to yourself and also compassion for yourself. You've got to want it, you've got to be hard-working, but you also have to be forgiving of yourself. This is the hardest thing to find, and something I still work on everyday. Only you know what you are ready for and what you are capable of -- but only if you try to find out. If you're not ready right now, that is
OKAY. Just keep checking back from time to time to see if you are ready to make that life-long commitment to a better you.
Can I adapt? Weight loss is not about supermodels in teeny bikinis, beach vacations, free clothes, endorsement deals, and happiness like the media portrays. Weight loss is hard, and life changes around you at the same time as your body. The diet that worked for you at the beginning will need some tweaks and adjustments as you get to the weight your body is meant to be at, and it takes work to find that magic balance in diet and exercise to keep your weight stable for the long haul. The people around you may react differently to you at a lower weight, positively
AND negatively. There will be bumps along the road, probably even some violent turbulence from time to time. You need to be firm enough to stick to your plan, but also flexible enough to take changes in stride and adjust. To me, losing weight is not the hardest part-- keeping it off through all of life's ups and downs is the struggle. Continually be willing to adapt to your situation and your surroundings, and you will find that balance of diet and exercise that fits in your life, right here and right now.
Many of us expect "skinny" people to just automatically be happy, when often losing weight will bring up new challenges and problems in your life. Weight loss is not a magic cure-all to every problem. But if you follow the right diet for you, are mentally ready to commit to it for life, and still have the flexibility to adapt to changes in your life around you, you'll find that success you're looking for. And it will feel pretty sweet to sit back and say, "Look how far I have come. Now I just have to keep going."
*Disclaimer: I do not endorse nor dispute the effectiveness of any diet plans linked in this blog. The links are provided for informational purposes only.